Abuse Is Abuse, Is Abuse, Is Abuse

CHICK CHAT Controversy

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What does the title of the article mean?

Anyone know?

Why would it be repeated?

Over & Over & Over..

Because Abuse is Abuse, is Abuse, is Abuse.

You cannot sugarcoat it.

Mental Abuse is still Abuse.

Emotional Abuse is still Abuse.

Sexual Abuse is still Abuse.

Technological Abuse is still Abuse.

Financial Abuse is still Abuse.

Abuse my Immigration Status is still Abuse.

Physical Abuse is still Abuse.

Let's dive deeper...


Abuse has become a topic very prevalent in the mainstream media in the last 2-5 years. Cases upon cases have been brought to the attention of the people whether you are a caseworker, judge, everyday joe, and maybe even a teacher. Recently a mutual stand has taken place in many forms with the success of shedding light on the subjects at hand. But the problem with bringing big controversial topics like abuse to the forefront is, how do you fix it going forward?

This blog post is going to shed light on the different types of abuses and at the very end resources with be provided for those that may want to report or call in for themselves.


Mental Abuse

"Mental abusers are people who attempt to control that person's life based on insecurities, and misguided sense of power."

- Better Help

As I researched on how to explain what exactly mental abuse is, I tried to form it into my own definition and I couldn't articulate the words as perfect as the quote above. Something I want to express while writing this post, is all of these topics don't have to happen in a marital/romantic relationship. These situations can happen between friends, family, bosses, and romantic partners; etc. Anybody that feels like they overpower you in the mind will try to mentally abuse you.

Emotional Abuse

"In general, a relationship is emotionally abusive when there is a consistent pattern of abusive words and bullying behaviors that wear down a person's self-esteem and undermine their mental health."

- Very Well Mind

Emotional abuse in the last two to three years I personally have seen more prevalent on social media. Depending on the relationship it is portrayed as funny or endearing and it is not.

Sexual Abuse

"Sexual abuse is unwanted sexual activity, with perpetrators using force, making threats or taking advantage of victims not able to give consent. Most victims and perpetrators know each other. Immediate reactions to sexual abuse include shock, fear or disbelief. Long-term symptoms include anxiety, fear or post-traumatic stress disorder."

- apa.org

The #MeToo movement is the largest response and call to action for sexual abuse victims across the United States. Some of the most shocking individuals have come out as abusers for decades. Sexual Abuse has no face, skin color, age, OR gender.

Technological Abuse

"Technology is a tool that abusers use to facilitate harassment, control, and abuse. In the context of domestic violence and sexual assault, online harassment and crimes are part of a larger system of abuse.  The abuser or rapist want power and control over the victim (either through physical control, fear, or isolation) and to force her or him into doing what the perpetrator wants. Through technology, perpetrators monitor survivors’ activities, control what the survivor can or can’t do, or harass the survivor regularly and in a variety of ways." - Women's Media Center

Social media is meant to be a tool to help grow businesses, brands, establish yourself depending on your career, or just to have fun. However, social media has a dark side. People exercise their opinions on social media everyday. Under your favorite celebrities comments someone is calling them an unfit mother. Under a news post someone is calling an opposing political party member out of their name. Social media has zero filter.

Financial Abuse

"An abuser may take control of all the money, withhold it, and conceal financial information from the victim. Financial abuse can also happen in elder abuse when a relative, friend, or caregiver steals money from an older person."